We could all use some more self-love, amiright? I find it really easy to show others how much I love them and help them feel good about themselves. It’s important to me to make sure others know how I feel about them, I think having cancer was a huge factor in that. When it comes to myself though, it is way easier to say “My thigh’s are so jiggly” than to say “I have a warm, giving heart.”
My tips for you
1. Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and give yourself at least one compliment. I know this is a tough one for people, it feels strange to talk to your reflection. Give it a try, look in the mirror and tell yourself something positive… the more often you do it the less strange it will seem. Eventually, you’ll look forward to your quiet moment each morning.
2. Move your body! It is proven that exercise increases the hormones in your body that make you happy! Do anything; walk, run, play kickball with your kiddos, ride your bike around the block, DANCE. I challenge you to not feel better about yourself afterwards. You’ll feel way better about yourself after a walk around town than if you spent that time on facebook or washing dishes.
3. Don’t give in to the negativity. There is a reason I don’t watch the news, its 80% negative information… It makes me sad, scared, angry… etc. Sure, it’s important to keep up on current events but it’s tough for me when the current events focus so much on the negative. Same thing with magazines, social media, friends, family. I don’t buy magazines anymore because they have a nasty way of telling people they’re not good enough. Social media can be a breeding ground for negativity and hostility if you’re not careful. Make sure you’re aware of these happy sucking places and do your best to avoid them. Follow pages on facebook that post positive content. Surround yourself with people who always seem to be genuinely happy, it’ll rub off I swear!
When I’m talking to people, usually moms, about having photos done they almost always comment that they hate having their photos taken because they think they are not photogenic. Other people will say they’ll do it when they’ve lost weight. I am not kidding when I tell you that nearly every single person I have talked to about having photos done has said this, or something similar. We are all so conditioned to put ourselves down, to feel bad about ourselves. It is incredibly difficult to get people to think positively about themselves.
I am not exempt from this, I totally do it too! But, I try to make a real effort to be positive about myself and love myself, especially in front of my children. I want to make sure I am always modeling positive self-talk in front of them so maybe they won’t learn to do otherwise. So take some time and try to love yourself better today too! You never know who’s watching.